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Hello!

I watched the Masters series final yesterday and Roger was again in fantastic form. Blake didn't play bad but he was just blown off the court.

Where does Roger get all that motivation now to work so hard? Maybe records? Just to be better than others - ego based? Fame?

Would be an interesting topic to discuss...

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1. What's new?
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a) The way our mind works is that it looks to the past memories and then predicts the future.

It means that we assume how things will work out if this and this happened until now. Read how this can hurt your game (and your life?) in:

Assumptions

b) Justine Henin has won the Championships tournament and finished the year at nr.1.

What can we learn from her ups and downs and use it in our approach to tennis matches?

Justine Henin

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2. Q&A
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Q: I always play doubles matches with my officemates and every time I expect a good game.

What disappoints me is the way my partner plays. We've been playing every workweek for over two years now yet her level of playing doesn't improve.

I tried to correct her for her wrong choice of strokes to no avail. The other week I didn't play because I feel that I'm finding playing with her already boring.

Am I wrong to act this way?

A: Hi,

Thanks for the question.

Let’s go to your message:

“I always play doubles matches with my officemates and every time I expect a good game.”

This is the first problem. What does reality tell you? Do you get a good game every time?

Don’t get me wrong, being positive and expecting a good result is actually the best mindset to have, but being attached to that and not realizing that things go other way is what makes it painful to you.

Life and tennis and are not perfect and beautiful and everything goes well. No, sometimes they are awful and horrible.

Try and accept that as a part of the game. Don’t live in a dream world.

“What disappoints me is the way my partner plays. We've been playing every workweek for over two years now yet her level of playing doesn't improve. I tried to correct her for her wrong choice of strokes to no avail.”

Here you are dealing with a projection. It’s too complicated to go deeply into this subject but if you want to here is the link:

Projections

What you see in her play is a part of you that is the same it’s just that don’t recognize it.

You want her to change. Here’s why this is so hard: we are all limited. What may be easy for you to see may be impossible for her to process in such a short amount of time.

You can clearly see that maybe she should return cross court since your brain operates much faster and IS TRAINED to perceive situation quickly and at the same time run multiple options.

Her brain may not be trained. She may be completely overwhelmed by just trying to hit the ball with the racquet.

Second – we are creatures of habit. If she has a habit of hitting a fast ball with a fast shot that will be very hard to change. Even if she wants it.

The subconscious takes over and you only observe your arm move fast even if you don’t want to. This also what reality is telling you.

“The other week I didn't play because I feel that I'm finding playing with her already boring. Am I wrong to act this way?”

Here is what you can do:

1. Yes, if the situation is not comfortable, then get out of it. Find a better partner.

Yes, we don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings but now you are hurting yourself. You’ll have to make a decision in this one…

2. You can learn and grow as a person by understanding her and your projections. This is what helps me deal with situations like this:

The Work

Maybe it’s fortunate and maybe it is unfortunate but with my deeper understanding of human mind I cannot give you a simple answer.

Tennis is just a training ground for life. Every problem that you face on the tennis court is a much deeper subject of your psychology.

It can get quite complicated and deep but at the end you can solve much deeper and more life important questions than what to do with your current doubles partner.

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Talk to you in two weeks,

Best regards,

Tomaz

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Zivjo!

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1. Kaj je novega?
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a) Med igro (in velikokrat se prej) pogosto predvidevamo - domnevamo kaj se bo zgodilo.

Preberite si, zakaj vam to lahko skodi pri vasem pristopu k igri:

Domneve

b) Justine Henin je koncala leto 2006 na prvem mestu WTA lestvice.

Kaj se lahko naucimo iz njene poti in zgodbe?

Justine Henin

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2. Vprasanja in Odgovori
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Vprasanje:
(nadaljevanje od prejsnjega emesecnika...) Niste mi odgovorili, ce se lahko postanem uspesna teniska igralka, kjub temu, da ze imam 15 let in da nimam nekaksnih velikih rezultatov.

Uspesna igralka mislim to, da bi dosegla vsaj to, kar dosega Katarina Srebotnik.

Hvala za odgovor in LP!

Odgovor:

Zivjo!

Najprej se moras vprasati, kaj je to uspeh. Ali je uspeh to, kar drugi ljudje mislijo o tebi? Katarina je uspesna (po tvoje in po mnenju drugih ljudi) ker je zmagala nekaj WTA turnirjev in je med 50 na svetu).

Ali je zate uspeh, ce si med 100 na svetu? Seveda, fantasticen. Ali je za Katarino uspeh, ce je 100. na svetu? Najbrz ne.

Uspeh je odvisen od tebe ne od mnenja drugih. Lahko si fantasticno uspesna in zadovoljna s svojim uspehom, pa ceprav bos mogoce nekega dne rangirana 850. na svetu.

Mogoce ti je to tezko razumeti sedaj, ampak upam da nekega dne bos. Vsak dan vidim ljudi, ki se mucijo in trpijo da bi dosegli nekaj, kar za DRUGE ljudi pomeni uspeh. Poiskati moras znotraj sebe kaj si zelis in potem sledi svoji ideji.

Zacni z majhnimi uspehi in majhnimi cilji. Postavi si en velik cilj, potem pa zacni z majhnimi koraki. Med "potjo" bos videla, ali je veliki cilj res pravi zate in bos popravila pot.

Zgodbica za lazje razumevanje:

Odlocis se, da hoces na Triglav. To je tvoj veliki cilj. Toda na resnicni "napad" na Triglav se lahko zacne sele s Kredarice. Najprej moras do tja. In preden prides do Kredarice je fino priti vsaj na Pokljuko (ali podobno izhodisce) in od tam "napasti Kredarico".

Za to je tvoj prvi cilj Pokljuka.

Ko se enkrat pripravis in natreniras kondicijo in se naucis, kako priti na Pokljuko, potem gres. In sele ko prides na Pokljuko, lahko malo blize vidis Triglav, ocenis kako tezko bo priti do tja in ce nisi ze mogoce zadovoljna s Pokljuko.

Ce nisi nikoli bila na Pokljuki se ti niti sanja ne, kaj je to Triglav.

Ce nisi bila nikoli rangirana 100 na svetu, se ti sploh ne sanja, kaj je to biti 25. na svetu.

In ce nisi bila rangirana 200. na svetu, ne ves, kaj to biti 100. na svetu. In tako naprej.

Sele ko prides v blizino tvojega daljnega cilja, bos lahko ugotovila, ali si ti sploh zelis.

Lahko si postavis cilj, da prides med 100. na svetu, tvoj start pa naj se zacne tako, da na primer prides med 10. v Sloveniji.

Pa se to je pomembno da ves: rezultatski cilji in sanje so lahko izjemno boleci, ko jih ne dosezemo.

Nihce ne more garantirati rezultata, niti ene tocke v tenisu ne. Zato si postavi "igralne" cilje: odlicen drugi servis, zanesljiva igra z osnovne crte, znas slice napad po paraleli, drop shot, smes v skoku, ...

Ko obvladas igralne cilje, rezultatski avtomaticno sledijo.

Poslusaj sebe, svoje obcutke in jih primerjaj z nasveti od "zunaj". Ce se ujemajo, "go for it", ce ne, raje sledi sebi.

LP, Tomaz

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Vabim vas, da si preberete tudi vprasanje in moj odgovor v angleskem delu emesecnika. (zgoraj)

Toliko zaenkrat, lep pozdrav iz Tajske!

Uzivajte v tenisu!

Tomaz Mencinger

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