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This newsletter comes in two languages: English and Slovenian. You'll learn new tennis mental tips, find out solutions to common tennis challenges in the Q&A section and be the first to know what's new on the TennisMindGame.com website.

Ta newsletter bo izhajal v dveh jezikih: anglescini in slovenscini. V njem bodo povezave do novosti na TennisMindGame spletni strani, ker bo vecina v obeh jezikih.

Za slovensko verzijo se pomakni navzdol po emailu!

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Hi!

As promised the next BIG thing for you will be video tennis instruction on TennisMindGame.com.

I have "modernized" my equipment with a new camcorder and a wireless microphone and will be spending lots of time on tennis instruction this month.

There will be a section for beginners and for advanced players.

I will start with beginner tennis first and then move to advanced techniques and footwork.

Stay tuned...

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1. What's new?
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a) How Do You Know Whether You Are Winning?

Silly question, you say - I look at the score!

No, that usually doesn't tell you the answer. You think you are winning when you FEEL that you are winning.

Are You Winning Or Not?

b) New Mini Tennis Warm Up Drills

- Catch & Throw - great for improving your hand-eye coordination, reactions and simple tactics - even on short court.

- Forehand Only - improve your footwork, touch and feel for short cross topspin shots and yes, tactics again...

Both drills can be found on the Tennis Warm Up Drills...

They are listed as 6. and 7.

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2. Q&A
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Q1:
Great book Tomaz! I'm trying to have my son read when he has some free time. The strategies on how to play the different types of players has been very helpful.

My son's match last night brought up a question. He plays in a Junior Ladder program twice a week. The ladder has 48 juniors, and he's typically in the top 10.

Last night, he was number four on the ladder and played the number eight player. He's been trying to tweak some parts of his game - taking the ball on the rise, trying to be more aggressive and come to the net, and working on a new slice serve. So he told me he was going to try that during the match.

Win or lose, after all it was just practice. His strategy was paying off, his opponent is a very consistent baseliner, and my son was mixing things up, coming to the net. He was up 5-1 and at the net for several points, when his opponent hit three winners on him. Even though he was still up 5-2, the three winners began the mental meltdown and he found himself down 6-5, by sliding back into his old way of playing.

He starts yelling at himself and gets sloppy. He finally realized what happened - that it was all in his head - and talked himself back into the game, returned to his aggressive play, and won 7-6. But that isn't typical, he usually beats himself at that point.

My question is what can I say to him to help him stop beating himself and making his matches harder than they need to be? This opponent has only beaten him once before in the more than 10 times they've played, and that time it was his mental meltdown that beat him.

A1:
Hi, thanks for the email and kind words!

Ok, in your case I have good news and "bad" news. Bad news in the sense that things may not work out how YOU want them to work out. Basicly it's only "bad" for your ego and sense of control but in reality it is as it is.

Ok, bad news?

You cannot "make" or "force" your son to be as you want him to be. He is a free person. Even if you try and partially succeed, if your son't internal motivation is not aligned with your wishes there will be some bad consequences later.

He will not feel good about himself or his choices. And that can result in variety of activities to "push down" those feelings - like overeating, watching tv, playing computer games and even worse...

So, the bad news is that he will eventually have to make his own choices whether he wants to yell at himself or not. Federer was known as a very "crazy" kid, throwing racquets all the time and getting kicked out of practice.

He made a choice.

So bad news - you cannot control your son's tennis career. You can guide him and show him the way you think is best, but at the end he needs to be independent and make his own choices and learn from them.

Good news?

What you can do is to make him AWARE of what is going on. I find it best to avoid talking and persuading and convincing. The best is to tape his match and have him watch it - if he wants to.

That way he will see what is going on. He will become aware how much emotions and ego hurt his game.

The difficult part of tennis and mental training is to be ABLE to disconnect from your own thoughts and emotions and observe them and make a conscious choice whether you will follow these thoughts and emotions or not.

"What do I want more - to win a match no matter what way OR I want to show people around (spectators, opponent, parents, coach, ...) that I am not that bad since I allowed my opponent hit three winners.

So I will "talk down" to myself and criticize myself so others won't have to and they'll see that I got what I deserved by making those mistakes or sloppy play."

This is the train of thought going through the head at light speed. The only thing for us - outside spectators is to try and disrupt the automatic thinking and emotions.

We can talk before and decide together: Look, when you get emotional I will say something like:... (talk to your son and decide what are you going to say)

I usually say:"Where are you?" I am referring to emotional state - high or low. Check the page of Activation for better understanding. And then the player EITHER decides that playing his best is more important OR that he wants to use his emotions to prove what ever he wants to prove or show to other people or get down on himself.

That's his choice. He is free.

Sometimes we must make the same mistake for YEARS before we get sick of it and change ourselves. That's everyone's own choice, not mine or yours.

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That's it for this week, I'll be in touch again in two weeks.

Best regards,

Tomaz

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Zivjo!

Pripravljam video teniske instrukcije za TMG in upam, da bodo prvi videi na ogled ze v februarju.

En del bo za zacetnike in en za napredne igralce. Zanekrat planiram vse v anglescini, mogoce kdaj tudi v slovenscini...

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1. Kaj je novega?
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a) Vabim vas da si preberete clanek na angleskem delu mesecnika in preverite v praksi, kako se obneseta nova 2 mini tennis drila za ogrevanje:

Ujemi in Vrzi & Samo Forehand...

b) Ne spreglejte tudi Q & A v angleskem delu...

c) Za vse, ki vas zanima tudi bolj splosna psihicna priprava, se posebej za vzdrzljivostne sporte:

Psihicna priprava - vzdrzljivostni sporti

Clanek je bil objavljen v Poletu, 16.2.2006

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Toliko za ta teden, slisimo se spet cez 14 dni. Lep pozdrav iz Tajske.

Uzivajte v tenisu!

Tomaz Mencinger

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